It was September 22, 1978. I was a 14-year-old girl with braces, all dressed up for my sister’s wedding and waiting for the ceremony to begin.
I had grown weary of the chaos of it all and sought refuge on the front porch of my family home as I watched the cars go by. With the sun shining down on my face and bare shoulders, I finally felt peace at last.
All of a sudden, I noticed a car pulling up to park directly across the street from me. Almost simultaneously, my soon to be brother-in-law dashed around the corner all smiles, and shouted, “You made it!” to the car of four of his closest friends.
I vividly remember all four doors opening simultaneously and then the young man sitting in the back seat on the passenger side of the car got out. Much to my surprise, he successfully captured my full and undivided attention.
As the young man stepped out of the car, I became fixated on his black curly hair, big broad smile, and tall muscular build. I found myself in one of those moments where time slows down and everything takes place in slow motion.
Something about him swept me away and my inner voice said, “That’s going to be my man when I grow up!”
Years later, I came to discover that this was my intuition talking loud and clear! Little did I know then, but 35 years later, this same man you all know as Tom, would become my husband for real!
Intuition is when you know things that you don’t know why you know…you just know!
Most times, when we have experiences like the one I shared with you, we rationalize and analyze them away.
Essentially, we talk ourselves out of trusting the knowing that makes no sense to our logic.
Enrollment conversations are happening when our logical thinking talks us out of following our intuition.
We enroll ourselves into doing something OTHER than what we were inspired to do in the first place. We do this with the dreams we have for our life all the time!
We dream of being artists, scientists, builders, musicians, or entrepreneurs. We get all excited about it, then enroll ourselves into doing something else because it makes more sense and appears to be more realistic, in spite of our intuition’s voice saying…
“this is you, you can do this, go for it!”
I’d like to stop here and ask you this:
Have any of you known that the person you were about to promise your heart and soul to was not a good match for you, but you moved forward anyway?
I sure did…my intuition told me before I even said “I do,” that I would do well to make a different choice when I married my first and second husbands! I am a slow learner sometimes!
Do you have [or have you in the past had] a sense, a knowing, and/or a feeling, about your relationships?
Truth is, we all do. Turns out, the challenge is not feeling our intuition, it’s allowing ourselves to FOLLOW IT that is difficult for us.
I have some science to share that I hope will finally give you the motivation and courage to develop and trust your intuition in all matters, but especially in matters of the heart.
By doing so, your trust will grow. Why?
Because ultimately, you will be increasing the trust you have in yourself, and the specific information that lies inside of you is ready and waiting to be of service.
Advances in technology are proving that intuition is not a woo woo thing at all, but a body thing.
Your body has access to more information than your mind can process, and we have not yet even talked about the fact that you also have the ability to draw from your subconscious, and the wisdom we have access to because of quantum physics!
Your intuition is YOU accessing your integrated, whole-system experience…this is why you just KNOW!
Your intuition is a REAL thing, and I have got to tell you honestly, it will be necessary and so helpful to you when you’re rebuilding your trust in love and relationships if you can become BFF’s with it, and then trust the guidance it provides you.
So here are a few ways to get you started:
1. Intentionally give your intuition a voice, and check in with it. You do this by pausing your thinking, and scanning your body instead. Look for sensations of tightness, nausea, shallow breathing, even a sour taste in your mouth. These could all be indications that you would be better off to avoid whatever it is you are considering. Sensations or feelings that make you smile, feel or see light, excitement, joy, and/or peace, are indications that your considerations would provide a positive experience for you.
We all have personal ways that our intuition communicates with us, and it is important for you to discover what it is for you. This will happen as you invite your intuition more and more into your life decisions. Start small.
A great place to begin is with your choices of food and clothing.
It looks like this: You walk into your closet, and your notice you really want to wear the red dress or shirt for the day. Your thinking kicks in and says…"Oh geez, its so bright and flashy…what will my [fill in the blank] think? You should wear the blue." If you feel inspired to wear the red…wear the red, and watch what happens.
2. Here is another favorite: get a little notebook (a tiny one that fits in your pocket). When you have a feeling about something, write it down. This way, when your feeling turns out to be right later, you can go back and validate that your intuition was spot on! This will give that mind of yours a good reason for trusting your intuition in the future, and build your confidence quickly.
Bottom line, we would all benefit from intentionally developing and trusting our intuition.
In fact, we simply must if we desire to become successful with love and relationships.
Here is a practice for you to get started deepening your trust in your intuition even further:
When your mind says one thing, and your heart is saying another...try this!
“Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ― Steve Jobs
After all, you’re simply learning to trust in all the wondrous knowing that lies inside of YOU.